I knew two older and very mature men of God who did a lot of counseling to other Christians and both of them told me that I will never be an effective counselor unless I am prepared to speak knowledgeably and candidly about sex, because it is one of the biggest problem areas in the lives of Christians.
When it comes to marriage, much can be said and written. And when it comes to sex, much can also be said and written. Pick the largest building that you know, and it could be filled with just some of these books. I dare not venture into such vast topics and I am not an expert on either. But the sex that is allowed by the Bible is something that I can expound upon with some confidence, so I will confine my discussion to this narrow topic.
The Bible treats sex very differently depending upon whether one is married or not.
Sex and the married Christian
My former pastor was the best preacher that I have ever personally heard. Simply the best. And there was great excitement in our services and tremendous growth in the church. But he went the way of so many pastors and committed adultery. It was a tragic loss to the Body of Christ. I have personally known four pastors to fall this way, and some of them lost dynamic international ministries that had blessed thousands. What makes this one pastor so painful for me is that he had confided in me that he wished that his wife displayed more imagination and variety in their love-making. I was shocked that he would share such an intimate secret with me and I said and did nothing in response. He was to go on to hire a prostitute and get caught and ruin his life. It was a huge scandal for him, his family, the church and the whole denomination. And I am convinced that if I had responded as he hoped that I would, then his marriage and his ministry could have been saved. His wife was an attractive woman, but very prim and proper as a pastor’s wife is supposed to be, and I could imagine that she took this behavior with her into the bedroom. Her restrained attitude is one of the most naïve failings in the church and deserves serious attention and correction. The old saying, “A woman should be a princess in the parlor, but a tiger in the bedroom” has a lot of truth to it.
In addition to these four whom I personally knew, I heard about four more in my city. All four of the pastors whom I knew were wonderful men of God and shined for their own decade. They were the most anointed men in the city and fantastic preachers. The highlight of our whole week was when we could listen to one of these men speak for 20 minutes. Three fell because of moral failure and the fourth had a terrible marriage. And each one was the result of not being sexually satisfied in his marriage.
The wives of ministers need to be acutely aware of the unusual stress, temptations and satanic attacks that their husbands endure. I would measure these pressures to be at least ten times as much as those that a layperson endures. And the wife must match his unusual needs with an equal amount of desire to meet those needs with whatever aggressive sexual behavior is required.
No one can tell me that this is not a problem worth talking about. No one can preach at me about these pastors’ weakness when I knew of their integrity and walk with God. And if anyone wants to tell me how everyone must act prim and proper in the bedroom according to their pious standards, then permit me to tell them about the enormity of the loss to the Body of Christ that it was to lose these great men of God. It is impossible to exaggerate. These self-appointed watchdogs of everyone else’s morals are frustrated old barking dogs that should be muzzled. It is said within pastors’ circles that Don Vito Corleone would be envious of the power wielded by the “Blue Haired Mafia” in the churches of America.
A certain large hotel in the Midwest hosted a conference of Evangelical youth pastors and enjoyed the largest single night of selling pornographic movies in the hotel’s entire history. In fact, the hotel industry has a saying, “They will know you are conference Christians by your porn.”1
I consider myself as interested in living a righteous life before God as most ministers, but I am a man, and regardless of all the other good things that a woman may be, I want her to be as interested in feeling my body as I am in feeling hers.
For many a couple, sex or lack of sex is the point of success or failure of their relationship. Therefore, a clear understanding of the role that sex plays in having a normal and healthy relationship is vital. With an informed understanding comes success. And with an ignorant misunderstanding, comes passivity, liberality or legalism and great harm.
Paul wrote candidly about this need:
“because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise, the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”
1 Cor. 5:2-5
In 2 Samuel 13, there is the story of King David’s son Amnon and his half-sister Tamar. Amnon fell in love with Tamar so severely that he became ill. His lust was so severe that he concocted a scheme to get alone with her and then raped her. Immediately after his lust was satisfied, he hated her. This is an extreme, yet common, example of the change that a man experiences before and after sex. While driven by these hormones, he is obsessed with sex and the satisfaction that his flesh craves. At this point, Amnon loved Tamar. But immediately after his lust was satisfied, his entire heart and soul changed, and his true and honest feelings emerged. He hated her.
It may seem implausible, yet it is right there in the Bible and demonstrated in everyday life all around us. In many cases of shallow individuals, it is a true test of their feelings. There are certainly better ways to determine if true love is present and all young women should be familiar with this story and understand that a man who seems driven and obsessed with her at the early stages of their relationship might well hate her in a matter of just a few minutes, and she should pursue other avenues to determine his true feelings for her.
A great deal of anticipation about sex builds up in every person from an early age. Both men and women hear about it for many years before they actually experience it, and it is normal for this anticipation to be replaced with fantasies. They expect their first time to be the crescendo moment of their lives, yet it is often “slam, bam, thank you ma’am”. As one story goes, after their first sex, the bridegroom says, “Wow, that was good. Was that good for you too?” His new bride says, “Yes, and quick too.” This disappointment is also normally followed by the disappointment brought on by his apparent near-total lack of interest in her as he rolls over and basks in his long-anticipated satisfaction. Therefore, it is important that the man learn how to satisfy his wife sexually if he expects their marriage to succeed.
Sexual intercourse is not called the “act of marriage” without reason. There is never a time of intimacy with his wife when a man does not expect it to culminate in intercourse and orgasm. There is no other culmination of cuddling that will suffice. For a married couple, they are joined together in a very mysterious way. It is not just physical, it is also a joining of soul and spirit. As their whole beings merge, they discover an intimate part of their relationship that can be revealed in no other way. Therefore, the act of marriage should be played out on the stage of serious intimacy and not just a quickie every time. Concern and devotion to one’s partner’s satisfaction is essential to a healthy sexual relationship and with it, a healthy overall relationship. Great care should be taken to determine what a man can do and how a man can satisfy his wife. She needs that orgasm as much, if not more, than he does, and it deserves an open and frank discussion if something is missing. If total satisfaction is not experienced by either partner, then they need to explore and find the right path to satisfaction. A great self-help book on this is The Act of Marriage by Tim and Beverly LaHaye.
I was once told by a normal Christian married woman that she needs to have an orgasm at least once every two weeks or she will be climbing the walls. But if she does, she is good to go for two weeks no matter what else is going on. The wise and thoughtful husband will be mindful of this.
There was an occasion in my church where a young Christian couple got married. They had grown up together in the same church and had dated for a long time before they got married. But it did not last. Shortly into their marriage, she called her husband on the phone to advise him that she was engaged in sexual intercourse with another man at that very moment. The parents of both met with the pastor and the church was sent into complete disarray. But, if ever there was an occasion where a wife was crying out for the sexual satisfaction that she had expected and not received, it was this one. The magnitude of her disappointment had led her to this extreme measure.
The need for satisfaction works both ways. Men have enormous and powerful drives within them that need to be satisfied, and the wise wife will not ignore them. The age-old dodge, “Oh, I have a headache” is a very big mistake. And for her to just lie there like a manakin is almost as bad. She can and should fulfill his wildest fantasies. A little bit of aggression goes a long way in the bedroom. Men have one single part of their body that is the focal point of their needs and satisfaction and the wise woman will give it all the attention that her husband wants her to give it. Seductive, alluring, emotional, excited and hungry attention will be well received.
One of my neighbors announced that her husband had chased her around the bed in an effort to have sex with her. She was rather smug about it. I thought, “That poor man must be very desperate.” You see, she was extremely unattractive. She was ugly, overweight and shapeless. Yet, she was his wife and all that he had. But still she made him chase her around the bed to get what he so desperately needed. How humiliated he must have been, and probably angry too.
In my law practice, I had a divorce case and represented the wife. The husband was an impressive man: handsome, distinguished, wealthy, well-mannered and to a great extent, the kind of man that most men want to be, and the kind of man that most women want. On the other hand, the wife was very ordinary, almost homely. At one point during my representation, the wife, my client, confided in me that her husband had asked her to do a kinky thing during sex. She thought it was outrageous and had refused. She could not understand how this could be a serious point of conflict in their marriage, but I quickly saw that it was. And here she was, in the process of being divorced by this wonderful man, and still could not see it. Her husband was granted the divorce that he sought and the homely wife probably spent the rest of her life alone, instead of with one of the most impressive men whom I have ever met, because she refused to do a very simple and harmless thing that her husband asked her to do.
“The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does.” 1 Cor. 7:4
Religious people are rarely biblical, especially when they are conspicuously pious.
On another occasion, my church had a couples retreat which consisted mainly of men gathering in groups and discussing their life and marriage, and women doing the same thing in another group. It got back to me that one of the wives told her group, “If my husband wants sex, he has to start courting me when he gets home from work.” My immediate reaction was, “He will leave her. He will have to leave his two beautiful daughters too, but he will leave her.” And he did. He had been publicly humiliated by his wife’s announcement of her selfish approach to sex.
Queen Cleopatra was not beautiful, but she managed to seduce the two most powerful men in the world at the time, Julius Caesar and then Mark Anthony. This was no small feat. Her exploits are legendary and her mastery of the art of seduction is something that all married women can and should consider. Why not? Cleopatra actually studied, thought about, developed, practiced and mastered the art of seduction. She threw herself into it, much like someone does who wants to master any skill. She made herself look alluring, she acted alluring and seductive, she spoke in an alluring and seductive way, she approached her man in an alluring and seductive manner, and she acted out her desire for her man in a sexually aggressive way. Husbands wonder why that is so hard for their wives to do too.
Any and all problems, disappointment or frustration in this department can and should be met with careful thought and efforts to remedy the problem. There are drugs, toys and much to be learned from those before us. We are certainly not alone in our quest to succeed in the bedroom. If ever there was a topic that has gotten attention, it is this one. The rhinoceros has almost gone extinct because there is a persistent myth that ground rhinoceros horn powder is a remedy for erectile disfunction even though it has the exact same chemical composition as fingernails.
So, have some fun!
Sex and the unmarried Christian
I was an unmarried Christian for a long time and dwelt among unmarried Christians. There was a wide variety of opinions about what manner of sex was permissible for us and it was the subject of numerous and lengthy discussions. But, as important as the topic was to us and the amount of discussion that took place, I do not remember a single person, including myself, who ever presented a biblical answer to the question. It was always someone’s opinion. So, I will provide the biblical answer now.
I am sure that the reader already has an opinion on this subject, but please put it aside for now. If you are the pious type, then you are probably wrong. And if you are the liberal type, then you are also probably wrong. We must all submit to the scriptures. And perhaps to someone’s surprise, the Bible does have the answer and it comes from a most surprising place.
When the Gentiles entered the Church in the First Century, there was conflict between the Jewish believers and the new Gentile believers. The question arose over what part, or all, of the Old Covenant the new Gentile converts must obey.
“But some of the sect of the Pharisees who believed rose up, saying, “It is necessary to circumcise them, and to command them to keep the law of Moses.” Acts 15:5
So, all the church leaders gathered in Jerusalem to consider the question. It is recorded in Acts Chapter 15 and is commonly referred to as the “Jerusalem Conference”. Peter and Paul argued vehemently that the church should not burden the Gentiles with the old law because the New Covenant was not the Old. Finally, James, the head of the church in Jerusalem, stood and announced his decision.
“Wherefore my sentence is, that we trouble not them, which from among the Gentiles are turned to God: But that we write unto them, that they abstain from pollutions of idols, and from fornication, and from things strangled, and from blood.” Acts 15:19-20 (KJV)
The entire assembly voiced their approval of James’ decision and it was adopted by the entire church and became the law within Christianity for all things legal, including sexual conduct (Lev. 18). And since the New Testament does not address this issue elsewhere by way of command, this is the one and only scripture on the subject and the decision by which the subject is settled. (adultery and homosexuality are addressed in the New Testament, but that is not our topic)
Most of the modern translations do not translate the Greek word porneia as “fornication” as the King James Version does in this passage or anywhere else, but instead use “sexual immorality” throughout the New Testament. The Greek word used in the biblical text is porneia which is translated literally “fornication”. According to Strong’s, a trusted source for Greek, the short definition of porneia is “fornication” and “idolatry” and its long definition is “fornication” and “whoredom”. The full text of Strong’s definition of “porneia” as used in Acts 15:20 is below in a footnote.
The modern-day translations always translate the word porneia throughout the New Testament as “sexual immorality” as a form of censorship in an effort to make the Bible more suitable for children. But in the process, they have inserted words that are not as clear and simple as “fornication”, which has a clear and limited meaning for those who want the true meaning. On the other hand, “sexual immorality” has a meaning as broad as the human imagination. It is conceivable that every different culture on earth has a different understanding of what activities are, or are not, within the scope of “sexual immorality”.
Therefore, it is of the utmost importance to understand the exact meaning of fornication and whoredom in this context to accurately understand the scope and limits of this biblical prohibition. No more, no less. Fornication is sexual intercourse between an unmarried couple. It is not hugging, kissing, petting, feeling, nakedness or even oral sex, by either the man or woman. It is fornication, or sexual intercourse, which requires the penetration of a man’s penis into a woman’s vagina. Nothing else would qualify as fornication. By its very definition, fornication is restricted to unmarried people. When a married couple has sexual intercourse, it is not fornication. Fornication is when an unmarried couple has sexual intercourse. This is also consistent with the definition of whoredom, which is condemned in 1 Cor. 6:16. This is the only sexual prohibition for unmarried Christians. No more, no less. But it is a prohibition. It is not a command to do everything that is not fornication. That is a matter for each couple to determine with due regard for the other person’s desires and preferences.
The ultra-pious among us will question, if not fully object to, this position. You must take that up with the apostles. But I do not apologize for the Bible. God knows what He is doing. Although one might argue that James did not include such obvious prohibitions as bestiality, incest and homosexual activities, but we may rightly assume that common sense demands that we judge this with wisdom and maturity. This would lead the sensible person to conclude that all things permissible to a Christian married couple, except sexual intercourse, are permissible to an unmarried couple, which Paul describes in these terms: “The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another”. 1 Cor. 5:4
The only other scripture on this issue is found in Paul’s extensive discourse on marriage in 1 Corinthians Chapter 7, in which he wrote:
“Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication (porneia), let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.”
1 Cor. 7:1-2 KJV
Paul’s words are sometimes interpreted as a prohibition, that a man shall not touch a woman. But that is not what he said. Paul does not forbid a man to touch a woman. He wrote that “It is good for a man not to touch a woman”. That is far different than a prohibition, which Paul was not hesitant to do if he felt that it was appropriate. (1 Cor. 14:39) If someone told you that it would be good if you exercised 30 minutes every day, would you take that as a command to do it? I would not. I would take it as his belief that it would be good for me to exercise 30 minutes a day. Practically speaking, I cannot imagine Paul commanding something as far reaching and extreme, if not outrageous, as to forbid men from touching women. If this is a moral commandment, then why does it only apply to men? In addition, this entire chapter, including this verse, is about whether a Christian should marry or not, and if they marry, then how to behave in their marriage.
If you take this “suggestion” as a command, then consider the times when Paul’s “commandments of the Lord” are taken as suggestions, if not totally ignored. For instance:
“Let your women keep silent in the churches, for they are not permitted to speak; but they are to be submissive, as the law also says. And if they want to learn something, let them ask their own husbands at home; for it is shameful for women to speak in church. Or did the word of God come originally from you? Or was it you only that it reached? If anyone thinks himself to be a prophet or spiritual, let him acknowledge that the things which I write to you are the commandments of the Lord.”
1 Cor. 14:34-37
Is that not a “commandment of the Lord” from Paul that is taken as a suggestion? So, why would we take a suggestion and make it a commandment?
Likewise, in 1st Corinthians Chapter 11, Paul classifies his instructions regarding head covering for men and women and a strict prohibition against long hair for men as inviolable laws of nature, but all of these are almost universally ignored throughout the church. Paul’s comment about something being “good” is far less commanding than any of these.
As stated, in many of the modern translations, Paul warns against “sexual immorality” on numerous occasions (Gal. 5:19-21, 1 Cor. 6:18-20, Col. 3:5, 1 Thes. 4:3-5) which is fodder for the pious cannon. But as also previously stated, the Greek word is always porneia which means literally “fornication”, and to translate it as “sexual immorality” amounts to censorship by the translators in an effort to make their Bible translation more widely accepted, but in so doing, has created enormous confusion in the church. There are about 170 different nations on our planet, and each of these cultures has its own definition of sexual immorality. I suppose that if I was to go to one of the sub-Sahara African nations or Denmark and ask them what they consider sexual immorality, their answer would be, “What is that?”. I have no intention of trying to choose from among all of those, and I definitely am not interested in hearing the fierce opinion of a frustrated old woman or the piety of a bearded, pipe-smoking theologian in his tweed jacket with elbow patches, sitting behind a large old desk with shelves of books behind him. It has been my experience that the preacher who preaches the hardest line on this topic is the same one who was just caught hiring a prostitute. It is just not normal for a normal man to scream that all sex in any form or fashion is sin. I believe that he is preaching to himself out of frustration.
I am very familiar with the Puritan standards that prevail in American churches and how the fierce moral watchdogs that bark at all Christians have created such a sexually frustrated society that America is now one of the very few countries in the whole world that has outlawed prostitution. It is true that some countries have laws on the books prohibiting it, mostly in Africa, but they are largely not enforced. I lived in France for three years, where prostitution is technically illegal, but there is a prostitute conspicuously posted on nearly every major street corner. As a direct result of this pious suppression, America has the highest rate of rape in the world, where one in every six women can attest to being raped or suffered an attempted rape. There are American cities where a full one-half of the men are registered sex offenders. In addition, America ranks #1 in the world for the most child abductions, 460,000 per year, over four times the country coming in second, and ten times the rate in Russia. These are usually the acts of sexual predators. Try, if you can, to imagine the anguish of each and every family whose precious young child has been abducted and missing and multiply that by 460,000 per year. But the self-righteous piety rages on. Brag to these 460,000 parents who weep non-stop day and night about how moral you are, and do it again next year when another 460,000 tragedies are added to the toll.
Until recently, most cultures endorsed marriage immediately after a woman’s first menstruation at about age 12 or 13 years old, and a man’s sexual maturity. Thus, all sexually mature but unmarried people were unmarried for a very short time, usually no more than a year or two. This was the culture during biblical times and all the way up to modern times. Even as late as 1910, a noted traveler wrote this about the age of marriage in Palestine: “A girl is usually married in her twelfth or thirteenth year, and sometimes as early as her tenth year.”[i] If a woman reached the age of 20 and was still unmarried, it was a family and village crisis, if not scandal. Some Bible scholars say that the reason that Paul instructed women to be quiet in church (1 Cor. 14:34) was because so many of the wives were teenage girls doing what teenager girls do when they get together. They talk and giggle. The biblical authors could not envision the decades of total abstinence that such a vast number of single people are asked to endure today.
There was a survey of married Christians conducted to determine their views on oral sex.3 Only 4.2% of the women and 0.1% of the men thought that oral sex is morally wrong. (0.1% is only one Christian man out of the 1,000 surveyed) The most common feeling about it is that they want to do it if their spouse likes it. I agree with that sentiment.
The Connection between unscriptural morality and tragedy
It is tempting to think that this interpretation of scripture is liberal beyond God’s moral nature. But events prove otherwise. God has very practical reasons for His liberality, if you choose to call it that. Allow me to explain.
I am an American, born and raised in the State of Virginia. I was also an attorney. This led to my knowledge that the State of Virginia has the highest rate of child abductions in the country. In fact, 20% of all child abductions in America are in Virginia, a state with only 5% of the nation’s population. Every single one of these includes the harsh reality that an innocent child was abducted by a person, usually a man, who usually sexually abuses, rapes and eventually kills the child. Meanwhile, the child’s parents live every single minute of every single day for the rest of their entire lives in tortuous grief beyond our comprehension, being fully aware that the most likely outcome was the rape and killing of their child. In just the first quarter of 2017, 355 children went missing in Virginia. When reported, the police’s standard response is, “Your child most likely ran away. We must wait 48 hours before devoting the manpower necessary to launch a search.” So, the family spends 48 sleepless hours waiting. When the time has finally expired and the “runaway” child has not returned, the parents again contact the police. Then they are told, “With cases like this, if we don’t find them in the first 48 hours, the chances of ever finding them are greatly reduced.” The parents are ready to explode. Then nothing is done beyond including their child on the national database of Lost and Missing Children.
There are 195 different nations in the world and the USA has the highest rate of rape. Likewise, each of these rapes includes with it the lifelong effects on the woman.
Why is this? Why is the USA, a country so rigorous in its pursuit of morality, leading the world in rape and sexual predators? And why is Virginia leading the nation in child abductions?
As an attorney, I witnessed the zeal that the police force exerted against the massage parlors and prostitutes and the total lack of zeal they exerted against child abductions. It is no wonder that Virginia is the sexual predators’ happy hunting ground. I would venture a guess that the number of policemen or deputy sheriffs assigned to vice is ten times the number assigned to all child abductions. Why?
The answer is simple.: the Blue-Haired Mafia moral watchdogs decide for everyone what is moral and what is not. They have decided for us all that any form of sexual gratification is immoral and therefore must be unlawful. This has led to the fact that America is the only country in the world where prostitution is illegal. You say, “No way. That cannot be!!!” Ahh, but it is true. Prostitution is legal in Canada, Mexico and every country in the world except America. It is true that many other countries have laws against prostitution, but they are not enforced. I lived in France for three years. In France, prostitution is illegal, however, there is a prostitute conspicuously posted on nearly every corner of every busy street and at every pull-over outside the city. The laws are simply not enforced.
Every country in the world is willing to admit that men have needs. A man’s sexual desires are a fact of life, a part of his physical makeup. To deny this is absurd. Why else would the pornography industry boast revenues in the multiple billions of dollars? To deny that men have this need is absurd. However, the absurd has found a happy home in America. Prostitution remains illegal and men are forced into an unnatural world.
The Blue-Haired Mafia moral watchdogs say, “A man must control his urges.” Tell that to the thousands of families with abducted children. Tell that to the thousands of women who have been raped.
There is a direct and conspicuous connection between overly strict restrictions on sexual activity and rape and abductions. If a society restricts sexual activities beyond those imposed in the Bible, then the society pays the price.
I ask a simple question: What is worse, a man getting some sexual satisfaction in a way other than fornication, such as oral sex or a hand-job; or a child being abducted, raped and killed? The Blue-Haired Mafia moral watchdogs would say “We cannot let any man have any fun.” The parents of the abducted child and the woman who was just raped would say, “Please, let up on your moral crusade if I can have my child back!” God is not as stupid as people. He knows what works and what does not work. It does not work to require total abstinence from all sexual gratification. If a man chooses celibacy, then he has that freedom. If he does not choose celibacy, his normal human needs must be recognized and met, and the wise society will make provision for it.
Otherwise, there is trouble. Lots and lots of trouble. Who is so absolutely stupid as to say that normal healthy men do not have any sexual needs? It is just as absolutely stupid to tell all unmarried men that the law does not allow them any sexual gratification at all; tell them that they must just suffer.
Prostitution laws do more than prohibit fornication. They hover over the American society like a giant black cloud prohibiting all men from any sexual activity at all outside of marriage, and there is a huge percentage of men who are not married. What are they to do? Really, what are they supposed to do. They cannot even get a massage without some over-zealous policeman arresting him and ruining his life.
What am I getting at? Simple. God is not as stupid as people. God knows men have needs. He made them. He prohibits fornication, but there is a lot that a couple can do to bring satisfaction without going so far as fornication. This is permissible because it is necessary for a normal society to function in a normal and healthy way.
That is one reason why the only prohibition for unmarried people is fornication. All the rest is allowed.
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All activities within a loving relationship should be guided by that love with due consideration for the other person’s feelings and desires. An unmarried couple cannot appropriate Paul’s words to married couples that each spouse has “authority over” the other spouse’s body.
When most people think about religion in general, they think of rules and prohibitions. Paul was just the opposite.
“All things are lawful for me, but not all things are helpful; all things are lawful for me, but not all things edify.”
1 Cor. 10:23
I therefore conclude that it is permissible for an unmarried Christian couple to participate in all normal sexual activities except fornication, which is sexual intercourse. This is my objective interpretation of the relevant scriptures and it is just as wrong to add to the Bible as it is to take away from it.
- https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/jared-c-wilson/they-will-know-you-are-conference-christians-by-your-porn/
- Porneia: fornication
Original Word: πορνεία, ας, ἡ
Part of Speech: Noun, Feminine
Transliteration: porneia
Phonetic Spelling: (por-ni’-ah)
Short Definition: fornication, idolatry
Definition: fornication, whoredom; met: idolatry. - https://www.the-generous-husband.com/2012/07/14/oral-sex-survey-says/